Bullying...Defeat it with Strength of Character and Positive Confrontation (PC)

My good friend and fellow law enforcement officer George McNeil gave me the opportunity to speak with a group of about 30 or so of his Criminal Justice Students at Bridgewater State College.  The topic was bullying.

The discussion was about an hour long and after defining the problem of bullying, to include cyber bullying.  Discussed a few actual incidents of bulling from students in the class,  the focus of the conversation turned to  CHARACTER and its affect on preventing or deterring all forms of bulling.

I had read a book a while back called Walk the Talk by Eric Harvey and Steve Ventura. In the book they broke the word CHARACTER down like this.

  • C ommitment-to yourself and to others, never to accept or participate in Bullying!
  • H onesty-in all that you do! Be aware of SELF and OTHERS Behavior!
  • A ccountability-for all that you do, right or wrong…Own up, APOLOGIZE and move on!
  • R espect-one another and earn it! If you cannot say it too my face…Don’t send it  through cyberspace!
  • A ttitude-be focused on resolving problems with POSITIVE CONFRONTATION
  • C ourage-to walk the talk of our commitments…NO BULLYING ALLOWED!
  • T rust-must be mutual TWO-WAY and earned. Trust yourself to do what's right!
  • E thics and Integrity-doing what's right even in tough situations.
  • R esponsibility-for your actions, is paramount to keeping a Bully free environment!

This concept made perfect sense when applied to the topic of bullying. Human problems center in my view, around human attributes. We discussed these attributes that build on character and how they can hold true if we commit with strength of character and confront the problem of bullying head on! With Positive Confrontation!

That is right, POSITIVE CONFRONTATION, standing up and saying what needs to be said and walking the talk of NO BULLYING.  This mean confronting the problem and using positive means to put an end to it.  Mainly interpersonal  communication and a cohesive environment, those we can trust to stand up with us to  end this problem. Bullying has always been around and more than likely always will remain. But it is amazing at how it ends when the BULLY is confronted with words from a cohesive group, that his behavior will SIMPLY not be tolerated.

I know what your thinking, CONFRONTATION is  not very PC (Politically Correct) but,

PC-POSITIVE CONFRONTATION

is

PC-PEOPLE CORRECT!

I thoroughly enjoyed speaking with these young adults the future leaders of tomorrow who offered a lot of valuable insight into a tough problem we all face.

“COMMITMENT is what transforms a promise into reality. It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions. And the actions which speak louder than words. It is making the time when there is none.  Coming through time after time, year after year after year. Commitment is the stuff character is made of; the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism.”~ Abraham Lincoln

Stay Oriented!

Fred