"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free." ~Catherine Ponder

Find a way to forgive them and set them free. If you need to, close
your eyes and imagine that person (living or dead) sitting in a chair in front of you. Tell them how they hurt you. No holding back. Let them have it. Scream, yell and swear if you need to (it is ok to use your inside voice). Get all the anger and resentment out. Once you have it all out and there is nothing left to say tell them you forgive them and set them free. Understand that forgiveness means you accept the reality you cannot change them.

You cannot change how they are or were, or what they said or did. You have no control over them, but you do control yourself. By forgiving them and setting them free you are setting yourself free. You are evicting that squatter from your head. Tell them you are taking back your life, your power and your control. Tell them you forgive them and set them free as many times as necessary for their image to simply fade away leaving the chair empty. Once their image is gone let the scene fade and notice how good you feel. Notice how there seems to be a weight lifted off your shoulders and off your chest. You feel lighter and can breath easier.

Take care.

Brian Willis
www.winningmindtraining.com
www.warriorspiritbooks.com

A great question to ponder "Who is living rent free in your head? An honest answer to the question is necessary, here to as Brian suggests its ok to answer with your inside voice. After answering I asked myself these questions: How is this effecting my performance and safety on the street? How does this effect those I work with and those I serve? How does this effect my home life and how I live that life day to day?

I'll ask you; Have you even thought about it? Even better...what will you do about it?

Stay Oriented!

Fred